The Zahir
… Paulo Coelho

"That is why it is so important to let certain things go, to release them, to cut loose. People need to understand that no one is playing with marked cards; sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Don’t expect to get anything back; don’t expect recognition for your efforts… don’t expect your genius to be discovered or your love to be understood. Complete the circle. No out of pride, inability or arrogance, but simply because whatever it is no longer fits into your life. Close the door, change the record, clean the house… get rid of dust. Stop being who you were and become who you are."

At times I have thought and rethought of this process and tried to do it but it has always been a tough task to do so. But yes this does help us to get rid of feelings of hatred towards people, and of accepting life’s various flavors

The accommodator or giving up point: there is always an event in our lives that is responsible for us failing to progress: a trauma, a particularly bitter defeat, a disappointment in love, even victory that we did not quite understand, can make cowards of us and prevents us from moving on. As part of the process of increasing his hidden powers the shaman must free himself from that giving up point and to do so, he must review his whole life find out where it occurred.